10 years ago, I wrote a series of letters in an attempt to make sense of my life at a time of crisis and uncertainty. One of them was a letter to my future self.
Now I am close to 60, it's interesting to see how far I have come. I have actually been gradually morphing into that person she describes, but I feel my 60s will be my best decade yet!
And yes, George Clooney is still hot! What would you write to your future self?
LETTER TO MY FUTURE SELF
How does 60 look? Or 2021 for that matter! Is there still a Eurozone? Has the global economy settled? Is George Clooney still hot?
Obviously, I can’t know what has happened to you in the ten years after I write this, but using now as a starting point, I’m going to make what I hope is an educated guess and project into the future. I’m hoping that you no longer sit and write blogs like this at 3am because your brain is so busy it won’t let you stay asleep. Ergo you’re not exhausted a lot of...
Guest Post by Philippa Taylor of Feel Fab Naturally.
I've heard a lot about "bio-hacking" recently, so I asked Philippa to explain what it is and what it could mean for us as we get older.
**NB: as with anything, please do your own research. The Midlife Movement does not endorse any product and the views in our guest blog posts are the authors' own. **
If you haven’t heard the term biohacking, you’re not alone. Biohacking is the future, and its development has been rapid and recent. Biohacking will impact your life sooner or later—and maybe it already has. If you’ve taken steps to better understand your body, your DNA, and your potential, that’s biohacking. If you’ve pursued ways to improve your physical, mental, emotional, spiritual, or cellular health, that’s biohacking.
Biohacking: In a Nutshell
Biohacking is using science and technology to become the absolute best version of yourself....
What do you want for yourself in this second half of your life? To be peaceful, calm, happy? To become an activist, to stand up for what you believe in? To change career or start a business? To travel, or find new love?
We've got you! You don't have to walk this path alone. We are building a movement - an army of women who have learned to love themselves and are moving through their midlife and beyond with energy, grace and purpose.
So not an army exactly, since we won't be going to war! Battling against negativity, perhaps. And cultural expectations, lingering from the past. And our own self-limiting thought patterns.
But I prefer to see us moving forward rather than looking over our shoulders. Embracing confidence, wisdom, creativity, optimism.
Some of us have felt angry, lost and hopeless. Looking at the state of the world, the tragedies and injustices in our own lives, the vagaries of ageing. How do you feel as you realise that there are...
I have started a love affair.
I've been married for 38 years, have raised four children and am enjoying watching the grandchildren - seven to date - arrive and grow. But lately, there's been something missing. Something quite fundamental that I've felt so keenly it's made me sad. I've developed a yearning for something else, something more, and now, finally, I've acted on it.
I'm falling in love again. The object of my affections? Well, that would be me.
You see, back in the day, I fell for the old rallying cry that we can have it all. Motherhood, love, career, being active in the community, looking after ailing parents.
That of course, is a load of old toot. We can't "have it all", we can only have bits of everything, because there are only 24 hours in any day and we, as human beings, only have so much bandwidth.
I wanted to be a "good" mother, so that was my focus. I did my best to work freelance, but mostly had to do that in the wee small hours, staring at a computer screen...
Whether you celebrate Christmas or not, I hope you have the kind of seasonal break you wish for.
I am painfully aware that many women in midlife will be spending Christmas alone through no choice of their own. Whether you are widowed, divorced, separated from your children or alone for other reasons, I wish you a peaceful time.
And for those who do celebrate - Happy Christmas! Thank you for being part of the Midlife Movement and I look forward to expanding our ranks in 2020 and beyond!
Holidays like Christmas can be stressful for those that organise the festivities, so I asked The Midlife Movement Community what they thought was the secret to a happy holiday. They are a thoughtful, enterprising bunch! Here are their top tips:
1. Remember, it's only one day!
"I try to remember that it’s just another day. So much of the pressure to have a “perfect Christmas” comes from people trying to get us to buy things. It’s lovely spending time with the family, but it is only a single day, with a glorified roast dinner - one day out of 365 - and how the rest of them are, on average, is what really matters. That helps me stay more relaxed. And if people want something a certain way, they are welcome to do that themselves!"
2. Make lists
Angie's top tip:
"Make lists and keep checking them and hopefully crossing things off to give yourself a sense of control. When it’s all in our head it snowballs and we can think...
Now that the shooting phase of the Face it, Own it! project has come to an end (see this blog post for more details: Midlife Women are Hot - Naturally!) the next phase - putting the book together - has begun.
Our fabulous book designer, Tony, has started work on the layout after drafting the cover and it will go to print after Christmas! But to do that, I need to pre-sell a minimum number of copies. Which is where you come in!
Until 31st December, the book is available for pre-order at the special early bird price of £29.95 - including postage if needed (you might prefer to pick yours up in person if you attend the Exhibition on 6th - 8th March 2020)
This is a strictly limited edition hardback, signed especially for you by me. It celebrates the natural beauty of us all and sends a message to the world that while make up is fun, we are ok, just as we are.
Thank you so much for all your support in this endeavour!
Do you find yourself holding on really tightly when you sneeze? Or when you exercise? Stress incontinence is no joke, so I asked Certified Restorative Exercise Specialist, Brittany Denis, to give us the low down on what we can do to improve the issue for a leak-free life!
Incontinence is an initial warning sign that the strength of your pelvic floor is compromised in some way and no longer has the strength to hold the contents of the pelvis. The initial symptoms are leaking urine and can progress to the point of pelvic organ prolapse.
Pelvic health is the conversation no one wants to have, so, unfortunately, incontinence has become all too common. And millions of people are suffering in silence. And with the number of incontinence products and adult diapers popping up in stores, we’ve normalized the issue. But being incontinent at any phase in your life is anything but normal.
Incontinence has become such an issue it’s one of the top reasons women end up in...
As I come to the end of the shooting phase of the Face it, Own it! project, I want to stop and reflect for a moment.
First, some numbers: as I write, 50 women have had their no make-up portrait taken by me and over 100 have sent me their no make-up selfie.
We've been featured on the television (BBC Look East), in newspapers, magazines and online, including one of Germany's top women's magazines, Brigitte, and on the radio. The project has clearly struck a chord.
Those that have come to the Studio have travelled from as far as Glastonbury and Liverpool - 5-6 hour round trips! I feel humbled that this project has resonated so strongly with so many women. And I am so grateful for all the efforts made by them to make what was almost a whim on my part into the vibrant, successful project that it has become.
Just to be clear, this was never meant to be "anti" make-up, or those who wear it. Many of the women who have taken part wear make up on a daily basis. The...
A couple of weeks ago, my 61 year old husband was running on the treadmill at the gym when he felt his left hand and foot grow numb. A trip to the GP confirmed his blood pressure was dangerously high, so he has spent the past 2 weeks while he hasn't been able to work or drive adjusting his diet and exercise regime and popping pills.
There is a human tendency to take our health for granted, to not expect anything to change, to think - even though we know that the thought is quite absurd - that "it will never happen to me."
Although there might be a genetic component to high blood pressure, chronic stress has a cumulative effect. Consistently high levels of the stress hormone, cortisol, in the body not only increases our risk of heart attack and stroke (and remember, without oestrogen menopausal women have the same risk factors for heart disease as men), but can cause a whole host of other issues, including headaches, depression, insomnia, low sex drive, palpitations and a weakened...